Connection: Free Support Group

What do you feel when you’re connected? We know connection can be an antidote to several difficulties and suffering in society. We are hosting a support group for people throughout the US to join and can provide accommodations. We just wanted to let folks know they can email me at drjoharchi@softheartpsychology.com within the next fewContinue reading “Connection: Free Support Group”

Queer Relationship-ing

This week I want to share a tip that may be helpful if you don’t have many folks to go to in your community about your relationships. This approach may be helpful whether you’d like to show up differently with friends, partners, or family. I was posting about this suggestion as I find it toContinue reading “Queer Relationship-ing”

More Opinions That Hurt Trans People

So we’re back and I need to discuss more things that injure, isolate, and disconnect transgender and gender expansive people from the connection needed to live. I believe the whole way we have things set up where we ask folks to meet with a long list of docs before getting their medical needs met isContinue reading “More Opinions That Hurt Trans People”

Opinions That Hurt Trans Children

I’m skipping the general hellos this time because I’m livid and concerned. As a psychologist, a healing provider. I’m so concerned with an email I just got from Florida. I’m recently licensed in Florida and they sent providers a bull $hit email about abusing transgender children. I’m not surprised, I’m just deeply disheartened and disappointed.Continue reading “Opinions That Hurt Trans Children”

Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues

Dear Soft Hearts, When patients ask me about dating issues I go over the typical things impacting dating. We look at how much racism has impacted their dating options if they are a person of color. We process any red flags they are noticing in dating partners and make sure they aren’t forgetting or repeatingContinue reading “Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues”

There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so there’s no clitoris to trauma recovery and healing. Yes that loss or struggle or pain very much did happen to you.There’s no special Influencer’s advice, or magical vagus nerve, or just this one movement or type of therapy to make it all go away. You were never broken to beContinue reading “There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery”

How to Handle Criticism at Work

Dear Soft Hearts, Some people say they love getting critiqued because they can improve once they hear this feedback. I analyze and process where I could’ve made mistakes and try to do differently so I haven’t found critiques in the workplace very helpful. In my training I would have sometimes two superiors in the roomContinue reading “How to Handle Criticism at Work”

I Reject Selling Sanity

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When did we turn healing and connection into a sales pitch? How did we turn our sacred field to the hands of corporations? I left a medical corporation that provided mental health care to their patients through an all-in-one health package. It’s the most prominent health care provider on the WestContinue reading “I Reject Selling Sanity”

Why Should I Pay for Therapy?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, People often tell people they should go to therapy so that they can just talk with someone. They often argue that going to therapy is the same price as that massage or retail therapy they might pay for otherwise. Therapy is not a massage. Massage is healing too, but therapy isContinue reading “Why Should I Pay for Therapy?”