Therapeutic Journey

I really wanted to share about my experience with meeting my inner family. People might be like “what’s that?!” While the inner family sounds weird to some, it has been healing to so many. People have been accessing different parts of ourselves long before Dr. Richard Schwartz, a family therapist and eating disorder specialist, developedContinue reading “Therapeutic Journey”

Healing Sex Series: Session 4-Explore Messages

In this final session I’d like us to gently explore messages we’ve learned from around sex, sexuality, and desire. Take a moment to get comfy where you are. Feel yourself so supported in your space. Feel yourself even 10% more comfortable, 10% more supported. Take a few breaths from the bottom of your belly, holdContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 4-Explore Messages”

Healing Sex Series: Session 3-Tune In

I’m not the first to talk about chilling out before and during sex. I’m not talking about numbing or dissociating. I’m talking about tuning in to the moment and attuning to your partner(s). Being mindful in a compassionate, gentle manner can open a channel that feels comfortable and safer for folks. Gently seeing what’s thereContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 3-Tune In”

Healing Sex Series: Session 2-Identifying What You Want

Years ago a friend sent me this amazing and inclusive list that folks can go through with partners to spot what they want and what their partner wants and needs. It’s an ongoing conversation (meaning what they want today may not be what they desire next month). It includes a sex positive approach for allContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 2-Identifying What You Want”

Healing Sex Series: Session 1-Professional Supports

I’ve been invited to talk with people about talking about sex in therapy and greatly enjoy sharing with folks about their needs and how to connect, safely. People may come in with pelvic pain and traumas around sex or may have experienced years of a controlling caregiver or relational trauma and wonder how or whyContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 1-Professional Supports”

Your In Between Session Guide

I can’t wait until next week to share what I’m going to share today! I literally can’t hold it in until next week! I’m super excited to share with you about things you can do in between sessions because if we only meet with our therapists for like 45 minutes a week then there’s aContinue reading “Your In Between Session Guide”

Doing Stuff Anyway

So I’m always talking about being gentle with ourselves, but I wanted to talk about walking through hard stuff while being gentle. Contrary action can be, in an odd kind of way, one of the gentlest things we can do. So many of my little blogs discuss how we don’t need to “should” or shameContinue reading “Doing Stuff Anyway”

Ways To Get Ready for Therapy

I want to talk about some concrete ways you can get ready for your session. For some it’s a thing they do every time before or after session. For others it’s preparing time or space. This is really just to support you in getting ready in the ways that feel best for you. Set yourselfContinue reading “Ways To Get Ready for Therapy”

Trauma Recovery “Crash Course”

Folks have been wondering if my EMDR intensives help any or not. I’d like a minute to talk about what EMDR is and how doing a bunch of it in a short period can be helpful. What’s EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) was identified by a woman who had cancer and who wasContinue reading “Trauma Recovery “Crash Course””