What Kind of Love do you Love?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I’d like us to explore what kind of love you deeply desire from your inner wisdom or inner loving parent. I’d like you take a moment to close your eyes and envision how the parent within can show up for you. I’d like you to have this expansiveness in your body.Continue reading “What Kind of Love do you Love?”

Intrusive Thoughts are Okay

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When we have thoughts that our body isn’t enough as it is or we hunt down reasons to feel separate us from a friend or partner these thoughts may be intrusive or unwanted. In my training I was taught that these sticky thoughts must be challenged, we must gain evidence againstContinue reading “Intrusive Thoughts are Okay”

The Power of Animals

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As we welcome this new year and new moon with hopeful embrace we also ride the waxes and wanes of the world during these times. I wanted to take a different approach regarding the new year. Rather than talk about how much we want to change about ourselves I want usContinue reading “The Power of Animals”

Why Should I Pay for Therapy?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, People often tell people they should go to therapy so that they can just talk with someone. They often argue that going to therapy is the same price as that massage or retail therapy they might pay for otherwise. Therapy is not a massage. Massage is healing too, but therapy isContinue reading “Why Should I Pay for Therapy?”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This is our last part of this series. We talked about some of the bullying I experienced personally, racist related bullying, gender related bullying, bullying due to socioeconomic status, and now we’ll wrap up about making amends for the bullying we’ve done. While I mentioned I experienced years of confusing, hurtfulContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five”

Grounding for Dissociation

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Everyone has some form of dissociation. People may range from zoning out or daydreaming to experiencing dissociative identity disorder. Folks may wonder why they’ve been feeling more absent minded or forgetful and it could be a number of reasons. I love to make sure their physical health is okay and beforeContinue reading “Grounding for Dissociation”

Where Does Forgiveness Start?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Sometimes we want to forgive or release someone or something for a wrongdoing or resentment we’re holding.  Perhaps someone hurt you.  Maybe a system or place or thing didn’t give you a chance.  Perhaps intergenerational stuff has been passed down to you and you want to release from this stuff.  MaybeContinue reading “Where Does Forgiveness Start?”

Four Tools for the Feels

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Some folx ask about how to feel their feelings. I get it. It’s hard to feel feelings. I will say in my experience as a clinical psychologist I know you have everything you need right now to feel your feelings. There actually are no tools one needs, but because we areContinue reading “Four Tools for the Feels”

Body Kindness During Pandemic

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This tip is pretty simple, but it has been the most helpful suggestion for people I know. Learning as much as you can is helpful for OCD. It allows the noting thing we talked about in the beginning of this series to be that much easier. Learning more about OCD takesContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4”