How to Support Your LGBTQ Teen?

So there’s no one size fits all, but I thought I’d share some suggestions on how to support your gender expansive, trans, or queer teen since parents and experts have been reaching out for some specific guidance in this area. We know that it takes some families time. If you’re reading this for yourself orContinue reading “How to Support Your LGBTQ Teen?”

Post Traumatic Growth

What would you do if you were free from some trauma?  There are so many aspects of trauma recovery that I get to witness in my work with patients. In fact, sometimes clients want to share with me what they’ve done with their extra time now that they aren’t people pleasing and being perfectionistic asContinue reading “Post Traumatic Growth”

Queer Relationship-ing

This week I want to share a tip that may be helpful if you don’t have many folks to go to in your community about your relationships. This approach may be helpful whether you’d like to show up differently with friends, partners, or family. I was posting about this suggestion as I find it toContinue reading “Queer Relationship-ing”

More Opinions That Hurt Trans People

So we’re back and I need to discuss more things that injure, isolate, and disconnect transgender and gender expansive people from the connection needed to live. I believe the whole way we have things set up where we ask folks to meet with a long list of docs before getting their medical needs met isContinue reading “More Opinions That Hurt Trans People”

Opinions That Hurt Trans Children

I’m skipping the general hellos this time because I’m livid and concerned. As a psychologist, a healing provider. I’m so concerned with an email I just got from Florida. I’m recently licensed in Florida and they sent providers a bull $hit email about abusing transgender children. I’m not surprised, I’m just deeply disheartened and disappointed.Continue reading “Opinions That Hurt Trans Children”

Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so what do we do if we’re interested in someone and we want to know if they’re going to meet us where we’re at? If you’ve done the healing work and want to dodge the “f$ck boy” and people who may be hot and cold out there then I think there’sContinue reading “Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions”

Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so a little more about dating stuff. I wanted to share a little more about writing your ideal qualities for a partner down on paper. Here are a few go-tos for those looking for love hopefuls: Write or type out your favorite things. You can write out what you wished youContinue reading “Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List”

Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues

Dear Soft Hearts, When patients ask me about dating issues I go over the typical things impacting dating. We look at how much racism has impacted their dating options if they are a person of color. We process any red flags they are noticing in dating partners and make sure they aren’t forgetting or repeatingContinue reading “Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues”

There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so there’s no clitoris to trauma recovery and healing. Yes that loss or struggle or pain very much did happen to you.There’s no special Influencer’s advice, or magical vagus nerve, or just this one movement or type of therapy to make it all go away. You were never broken to beContinue reading “There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery”

Virus Boundaries with Friends

Dear Soft Hearts, This pandemic has killed some of our family members, taken our money, and made friends very ill. Wherever you stand with things, it probably has impacted you in some way. And if you’re like me you’ve had to have some awkward conversations over the past couple of years. Things that we onceContinue reading “Virus Boundaries with Friends”