How to Talk About Racism with White People

Dear Soft Hearts, So just a reminder I’m Iranian American and White. I grew up in a very White neighborhood and skin heads, police, neighbors, etc. were damaging to my Iranian father. I had a different experience than my father and Brown and Black people I know, because I walked around in this world withContinue reading “How to Talk About Racism with White People”

Release and Unlearn

Dear Soft Hearts, I wanted to touch base with everyone and see what folx are unlearning after the new year resolution hype. It’s great when we can show up and do things differently, sometimes life saving and life changing. However, sometimes new years resolutions leave us with a Hollywood, Eurocentric idea of what “happy” means.Continue reading “Release and Unlearn”

I Reject Selling Sanity

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When did we turn healing and connection into a sales pitch? How did we turn our sacred field to the hands of corporations? I left a medical corporation that provided mental health care to their patients through an all-in-one health package. It’s the most prominent health care provider on the WestContinue reading “I Reject Selling Sanity”

Intrusive Thoughts are Okay

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When we have thoughts that our body isn’t enough as it is or we hunt down reasons to feel separate us from a friend or partner these thoughts may be intrusive or unwanted. In my training I was taught that these sticky thoughts must be challenged, we must gain evidence againstContinue reading “Intrusive Thoughts are Okay”

The Power of Animals

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As we welcome this new year and new moon with hopeful embrace we also ride the waxes and wanes of the world during these times. I wanted to take a different approach regarding the new year. Rather than talk about how much we want to change about ourselves I want usContinue reading “The Power of Animals”

How to Address Stress

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As things feel more tense for people these days I thought we’d discuss a few ways to address initial signs of stress. Don’t get me wrong. I think stress is great data. I believe when we feel distress it is parts of us giving us information. It is like parts ofContinue reading “How to Address Stress”

Why Should I Pay for Therapy?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, People often tell people they should go to therapy so that they can just talk with someone. They often argue that going to therapy is the same price as that massage or retail therapy they might pay for otherwise. Therapy is not a massage. Massage is healing too, but therapy isContinue reading “Why Should I Pay for Therapy?”

Where Does Forgiveness Start?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Sometimes we want to forgive or release someone or something for a wrongdoing or resentment we’re holding.  Perhaps someone hurt you.  Maybe a system or place or thing didn’t give you a chance.  Perhaps intergenerational stuff has been passed down to you and you want to release from this stuff.  MaybeContinue reading “Where Does Forgiveness Start?”

Body Kindness During Pandemic

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”

The Power of Groups

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I recently received a validating, compassionate email from a previous friend from a time in my life when things were difficult and I felt alone. It reminded me of the power of groups because at that time in my life I went to a group where I learned to release behaviorsContinue reading “The Power of Groups”