Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This is our last part of this series. We talked about some of the bullying I experienced personally, racist related bullying, gender related bullying, bullying due to socioeconomic status, and now we’ll wrap up about making amends for the bullying we’ve done. While I mentioned I experienced years of confusing, hurtfulContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Four

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Did anyone watch the series, Maid, on Netflix? Did you see the part where the mom gets access to a preferred school for her daughter and then her daughter’s educator assumes the daughter wants icecream like all the other children? This assumption led the educator to ask mom for $6 forContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Four”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Three

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week I’d like us to discuss bullying as it relates to gender related comments. Some people have been called names, ostracized, or isolated because they were perceived as different or not fitting a child’s conceptualization of a binary gender. Some people have been hurt or threatened because of how theyContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Three”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Two

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Thanks for joining us for more on ways bullying occurs, what that means for people, and how we can improve moving forward. Another type of abuse is isolating or aggressing toward someone using racial messages or propaganda to hurt someone. We know that these types of aggressions range from pronouncing someone’sContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Two”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part One

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Okay so this blog post could go anywhere this week. The complexities of bullying?! Where do we begin? There’s so much we could discuss concerning bullying. For this I’m talking about the slights that injured you and this could be picking on someone’s shoes, parent, size, etc. For today I’d likeContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part One”

The Power of Groups

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I recently received a validating, compassionate email from a previous friend from a time in my life when things were difficult and I felt alone. It reminded me of the power of groups because at that time in my life I went to a group where I learned to release behaviorsContinue reading “The Power of Groups”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What is OCD? In decolonializing care with the folx I serve and debunking a narrow-minded, Eurocentric field of psychology I’ve come to find trauma and grief show up in a number of different ways, including through obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). OCD is neurological and sometimes genetically linked. Sometimes it serves asContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1”

How to Attune to the Body When Triggered

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What do you do when your reaction feels huge in comparison to what just happened? It is totally understandable if your reaction to seeing, hearing, remembering, or smelling something feels like it doesn’t fit the situation. So many practices in psychology tell folks to think rationally, logically and actually invalidate themselves.Continue reading “How to Attune to the Body When Triggered”

Transformative Goodbyes

Dear soft hearted loves, I’m leaving a clinic I love and goodbyes are hard. This one is especially hard because I love so many of the patients I serve and coworkers. I’ve created bonds and relationships with one of my dearest friends at the clinic and developed trusting, therapuetic alliances with those I serve. LeavingContinue reading “Transformative Goodbyes”

How to Affirm Your Gay or Trans Adolescent

Dear soft hearted loves, I’ve been talking a lot with folks about how their family could’ve handled things more kindly when they found out their child was gay or trans (or sometimes we say LGBTQ standing for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer). I have the opportunity to serve folks healing from the wounds ofContinue reading “How to Affirm Your Gay or Trans Adolescent”