Doing Stuff Anyway

So I’m always talking about being gentle with ourselves, but I wanted to talk about walking through hard stuff while being gentle. Contrary action can be, in an odd kind of way, one of the gentlest things we can do. So many of my little blogs discuss how we don’t need to “should” or shameContinue reading “Doing Stuff Anyway”

Supporting Small Business

Monstrously big companies like Amazon tragically ate up small business everywhere. I won’t be surprised if Amazon makes a therapy platform and takes up that healing space too. Book stores, computer shops, and other small businesses were devastated when corporate America decimated their businesses. For some, they’re still finding small ways to try and survive.Continue reading “Supporting Small Business”

Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma

Sometimes people ask me if a type of therapy I do, EMDR, will be helpful for them. I point out how EMDR was developed, what EMDR is for, and then I validate and reflect what relational trauma is and why EMDR can be helpful. EMDR isn’t the only modality helpful for relational trauma, but itContinue reading “Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma”

Roe v. Wade Overturned: Address Grief Over Decimation of Bodily Autonomy

I was just checking in with folks about what they might want support around and the issue of Roe v. Wade being overturned is coming to mind and hearts for so many people. Patients in sessions are having to process what it’s like to have their or their loved one’s bodily autonomy reduced. I knowContinue reading “Roe v. Wade Overturned: Address Grief Over Decimation of Bodily Autonomy”

How to Support Your LGBTQ Teen?

So there’s no one size fits all, but I thought I’d share some suggestions on how to support your gender expansive, trans, or queer teen since parents and experts have been reaching out for some specific guidance in this area. We know that it takes some families time. If you’re reading this for yourself orContinue reading “How to Support Your LGBTQ Teen?”

Do You Want to Leave Therapy to Find Your Dream Therapist?

Here’s the thing, when thinking of your therapy, if you don’t feel like you found a secret gem then you may want to do some self reflection here. Sometimes people feel connected to and grateful for their therapy. Sometimes people feel it is hard and like their therapist may mirror something they didn’t want toContinue reading “Do You Want to Leave Therapy to Find Your Dream Therapist?”

More Opinions That Hurt Trans People

So we’re back and I need to discuss more things that injure, isolate, and disconnect transgender and gender expansive people from the connection needed to live. I believe the whole way we have things set up where we ask folks to meet with a long list of docs before getting their medical needs met isContinue reading “More Opinions That Hurt Trans People”

Opinions That Hurt Trans Children

I’m skipping the general hellos this time because I’m livid and concerned. As a psychologist, a healing provider. I’m so concerned with an email I just got from Florida. I’m recently licensed in Florida and they sent providers a bull $hit email about abusing transgender children. I’m not surprised, I’m just deeply disheartened and disappointed.Continue reading “Opinions That Hurt Trans Children”

There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so there’s no clitoris to trauma recovery and healing. Yes that loss or struggle or pain very much did happen to you.There’s no special Influencer’s advice, or magical vagus nerve, or just this one movement or type of therapy to make it all go away. You were never broken to beContinue reading “There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery”

Black History Isn’t a Footnote

Dear Soft Hearts, I want to note and celebrate Black History Month with full honoring and acknowledgment. When I lived in Baltimore I learned so much. It made me wonder if we would be less racists if we all grew up in a place where we honored and knew Black history not as a footnoteContinue reading “Black History Isn’t a Footnote”