More Opinions That Hurt Trans People

So we’re back and I need to discuss more things that injure, isolate, and disconnect transgender and gender expansive people from the connection needed to live. I believe the whole way we have things set up where we ask folks to meet with a long list of docs before getting their medical needs met isContinue reading “More Opinions That Hurt Trans People”

Opinions That Hurt Trans Children

I’m skipping the general hellos this time because I’m livid and concerned. As a psychologist, a healing provider. I’m so concerned with an email I just got from Florida. I’m recently licensed in Florida and they sent providers a bull $hit email about abusing transgender children. I’m not surprised, I’m just deeply disheartened and disappointed.Continue reading “Opinions That Hurt Trans Children”

There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so there’s no clitoris to trauma recovery and healing. Yes that loss or struggle or pain very much did happen to you.There’s no special Influencer’s advice, or magical vagus nerve, or just this one movement or type of therapy to make it all go away. You were never broken to beContinue reading “There’s No Clitoris to Trauma Recovery”

Black History Isn’t a Footnote

Dear Soft Hearts, I want to note and celebrate Black History Month with full honoring and acknowledgment. When I lived in Baltimore I learned so much. It made me wonder if we would be less racists if we all grew up in a place where we honored and knew Black history not as a footnoteContinue reading “Black History Isn’t a Footnote”

Are you Where you Wanted to be?

Dear Soft Hearts, Several people talk with me about not being where they wanted to be yet. I don’t want to invalidate that loss. Perhaps you wanted to parent a child by now. Perhaps you didn’t imagine the world’s climate as it is. Or maybe you figured you’d feel less weighed by trauma triggers afterContinue reading “Are you Where you Wanted to be?”

How to Talk About Racism with White People

Dear Soft Hearts, So just a reminder I’m Iranian American and White. I grew up in a very White neighborhood and skin heads, police, neighbors, etc. were damaging to my Iranian father. I had a different experience than my father and Brown and Black people I know, because I walked around in this world withContinue reading “How to Talk About Racism with White People”

How to Handle Criticism at Work

Dear Soft Hearts, Some people say they love getting critiqued because they can improve once they hear this feedback. I analyze and process where I could’ve made mistakes and try to do differently so I haven’t found critiques in the workplace very helpful. In my training I would have sometimes two superiors in the roomContinue reading “How to Handle Criticism at Work”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This is our last part of this series. We talked about some of the bullying I experienced personally, racist related bullying, gender related bullying, bullying due to socioeconomic status, and now we’ll wrap up about making amends for the bullying we’ve done. While I mentioned I experienced years of confusing, hurtfulContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Five”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Four

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Did anyone watch the series, Maid, on Netflix? Did you see the part where the mom gets access to a preferred school for her daughter and then her daughter’s educator assumes the daughter wants icecream like all the other children? This assumption led the educator to ask mom for $6 forContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Four”

Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Three

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week I’d like us to discuss bullying as it relates to gender related comments. Some people have been called names, ostracized, or isolated because they were perceived as different or not fitting a child’s conceptualization of a binary gender. Some people have been hurt or threatened because of how theyContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part Three”