4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This tip is pretty simple, but it has been the most helpful suggestion for people I know. Learning as much as you can is helpful for OCD. It allows the noting thing we talked about in the beginning of this series to be that much easier. Learning more about OCD takesContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 3

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, In our first part of the series on tips for folx with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) we talked about noting the obsession and using our parasympathetic nervous system to the fullest. We have this built in coping or survival strategy in our breathing and meditation that helps our parasympathetic nervous systemContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 3”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week we’ll discuss how to let that OCD thought or urge arise as the inner critic instead of resisting or battling it. The inner defender may tell the inner critic kind things, but the inner critic-inner defender battle will continue without the quiet, calm, centered part of ourselves. So muchContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What is OCD? In decolonializing care with the folx I serve and debunking a narrow-minded, Eurocentric field of psychology I’ve come to find trauma and grief show up in a number of different ways, including through obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). OCD is neurological and sometimes genetically linked. Sometimes it serves asContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1”

How to Attune to the Body When Triggered

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What do you do when your reaction feels huge in comparison to what just happened? It is totally understandable if your reaction to seeing, hearing, remembering, or smelling something feels like it doesn’t fit the situation. So many practices in psychology tell folks to think rationally, logically and actually invalidate themselves.Continue reading “How to Attune to the Body When Triggered”

Getting Yourself Back

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I have the pleasure of serving so many wonderful people who have this kindness to them that can sometimes be a “blessing and a curse.” Sometimes folks will come to me because they are traumatized from work as a fellow healer, or because they overextend themselves with codependency or people pleasing,Continue reading “Getting Yourself Back”

Getting Yourself Back

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I have the pleasure of serving so many wonderful people who have this kindness to them that can sometimes be a “blessing and a curse.” Sometimes folks will come to me because they are traumatized from work as a fellow healer, or because they overextend themselves with codependency or people pleasing,Continue reading “Getting Yourself Back”

Transformative Goodbyes

Dear soft hearted loves, I’m leaving a clinic I love and goodbyes are hard. This one is especially hard because I love so many of the patients I serve and coworkers. I’ve created bonds and relationships with one of my dearest friends at the clinic and developed trusting, therapuetic alliances with those I serve. LeavingContinue reading “Transformative Goodbyes”

How to Affirm Your Gay or Trans Adolescent

Dear soft hearted loves, I’ve been talking a lot with folks about how their family could’ve handled things more kindly when they found out their child was gay or trans (or sometimes we say LGBTQ standing for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer). I have the opportunity to serve folks healing from the wounds ofContinue reading “How to Affirm Your Gay or Trans Adolescent”

How to Navigate Inner Parts and Gender

Dear soft hearted loves, Do you remember when we learned about the seven different types of inner critics from expert, Maryam Fallahi? You can review the different types in Maryam Fallahi’s article seen here if you’d like: https://softheartpsychology.com/?p=161 I want to share about the phenomenon of the inner critics attacking our identities, specifically gender identity.Continue reading “How to Navigate Inner Parts and Gender”