When Did You Start Expressing Your Boundaries?

What are Boundaries Anyway? The best understanding of boundaries that I’ve seen was explained by Prentis Hemphill who explained that they believe “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” A great explanation of boundaries about their famous and comprehensive explanation of boundaries from a place of love can beContinue reading “When Did You Start Expressing Your Boundaries?”

Talking Ourselves Into Something That Didn’t Work

Have you ever talked yourself into something that didn’t work the first time? I have! I’d be surprised if there isn’t some behavior I’m doing now that I haven’t told myself, “hey self, this didn’t work out so nicely last time.” But there’s also a lot I AM aware of now. I think it’s aContinue reading “Talking Ourselves Into Something That Didn’t Work”

More Support

Let’s talk more about getting some support on board. For some of us we’re in the middle of fall. I think getting more and more support on board during the changes of fall can be super helpful. One of the most annoying questions I often ask clients who feel like they’re doing too much andContinue reading “More Support”

Family Support During the Holidays

All hands on deck! Get your support plan in now before being with family. So there’s a lot about this because 1. Not everyone has the family they’d want and 2. Not everyone celebrates the holidays others in their country celebrates. As a therapist I so often get asked if business is bombing during theContinue reading “Family Support During the Holidays”

Loving Parts of You in New Ways

I’m going to talk about one of the most helpful components of growth for me, but also pretty complicated. I first learned this one from a therapist I saw. She asked me what would my life be like if and when I felt less heavy around a certain issue. Not only did I love imaginingContinue reading “Loving Parts of You in New Ways”

Therapeutic Journey

I really wanted to share about my experience with meeting my inner family. People might be like “what’s that?!” While the inner family sounds weird to some, it has been healing to so many. People have been accessing different parts of ourselves long before Dr. Richard Schwartz, a family therapist and eating disorder specialist, developedContinue reading “Therapeutic Journey”

Doing Little Things For You

So I’ve been thinking about something codependency expert, Melody Beattie, discussed. She has some great literature like Codependent No More and explains how if you want to have your hair a certain way and can make that happen then please do. Sometimes I’m working on the inside so much I forget that it’s okay toContinue reading “Doing Little Things For You”

Ways To Get Ready for Therapy

I want to talk about some concrete ways you can get ready for your session. For some it’s a thing they do every time before or after session. For others it’s preparing time or space. This is really just to support you in getting ready in the ways that feel best for you. Set yourselfContinue reading “Ways To Get Ready for Therapy”

Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma

Sometimes people ask me if a type of therapy I do, EMDR, will be helpful for them. I point out how EMDR was developed, what EMDR is for, and then I validate and reflect what relational trauma is and why EMDR can be helpful. EMDR isn’t the only modality helpful for relational trauma, but itContinue reading “Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma”