Therapeutic Journey

I really wanted to share about my experience with meeting my inner family. People might be like “what’s that?!” While the inner family sounds weird to some, it has been healing to so many. People have been accessing different parts of ourselves long before Dr. Richard Schwartz, a family therapist and eating disorder specialist, developedContinue reading “Therapeutic Journey”

Doing Little Things For You

So I’ve been thinking about something codependency expert, Melody Beattie, discussed. She has some great literature like Codependent No More and explains how if you want to have your hair a certain way and can make that happen then please do. Sometimes I’m working on the inside so much I forget that it’s okay toContinue reading “Doing Little Things For You”

Ways To Get Ready for Therapy

I want to talk about some concrete ways you can get ready for your session. For some it’s a thing they do every time before or after session. For others it’s preparing time or space. This is really just to support you in getting ready in the ways that feel best for you. Set yourselfContinue reading “Ways To Get Ready for Therapy”

Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma

Sometimes people ask me if a type of therapy I do, EMDR, will be helpful for them. I point out how EMDR was developed, what EMDR is for, and then I validate and reflect what relational trauma is and why EMDR can be helpful. EMDR isn’t the only modality helpful for relational trauma, but itContinue reading “Traumas You Didn’t Think Were Trauma”

Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so what do we do if we’re interested in someone and we want to know if they’re going to meet us where we’re at? If you’ve done the healing work and want to dodge the “f$ck boy” and people who may be hot and cold out there then I think there’sContinue reading “Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions”

Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so a little more about dating stuff. I wanted to share a little more about writing your ideal qualities for a partner down on paper. Here are a few go-tos for those looking for love hopefuls: Write or type out your favorite things. You can write out what you wished youContinue reading “Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List”

Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues

Dear Soft Hearts, When patients ask me about dating issues I go over the typical things impacting dating. We look at how much racism has impacted their dating options if they are a person of color. We process any red flags they are noticing in dating partners and make sure they aren’t forgetting or repeatingContinue reading “Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues”

Virus Boundaries with Friends

Dear Soft Hearts, This pandemic has killed some of our family members, taken our money, and made friends very ill. Wherever you stand with things, it probably has impacted you in some way. And if you’re like me you’ve had to have some awkward conversations over the past couple of years. Things that we onceContinue reading “Virus Boundaries with Friends”

Are you Where you Wanted to be?

Dear Soft Hearts, Several people talk with me about not being where they wanted to be yet. I don’t want to invalidate that loss. Perhaps you wanted to parent a child by now. Perhaps you didn’t imagine the world’s climate as it is. Or maybe you figured you’d feel less weighed by trauma triggers afterContinue reading “Are you Where you Wanted to be?”

How to Handle Criticism at Work

Dear Soft Hearts, Some people say they love getting critiqued because they can improve once they hear this feedback. I analyze and process where I could’ve made mistakes and try to do differently so I haven’t found critiques in the workplace very helpful. In my training I would have sometimes two superiors in the roomContinue reading “How to Handle Criticism at Work”