Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so what do we do if we’re interested in someone and we want to know if they’re going to meet us where we’re at? If you’ve done the healing work and want to dodge the “f$ck boy” and people who may be hot and cold out there then I think there’sContinue reading “Dating Exploration: First Date Suggestions”

Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List

Dear Soft Hearts, Okay so a little more about dating stuff. I wanted to share a little more about writing your ideal qualities for a partner down on paper. Here are a few go-tos for those looking for love hopefuls: Write or type out your favorite things. You can write out what you wished youContinue reading “Dating Exploration: Create Your Ideals List”

Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues

Dear Soft Hearts, When patients ask me about dating issues I go over the typical things impacting dating. We look at how much racism has impacted their dating options if they are a person of color. We process any red flags they are noticing in dating partners and make sure they aren’t forgetting or repeatingContinue reading “Dating Exploration: A Deeper Dive Into the Issues”

Virus Boundaries with Friends

Dear Soft Hearts, This pandemic has killed some of our family members, taken our money, and made friends very ill. Wherever you stand with things, it probably has impacted you in some way. And if you’re like me you’ve had to have some awkward conversations over the past couple of years. Things that we onceContinue reading “Virus Boundaries with Friends”

Are you Where you Wanted to be?

Dear Soft Hearts, Several people talk with me about not being where they wanted to be yet. I don’t want to invalidate that loss. Perhaps you wanted to parent a child by now. Perhaps you didn’t imagine the world’s climate as it is. Or maybe you figured you’d feel less weighed by trauma triggers afterContinue reading “Are you Where you Wanted to be?”

How to Handle Criticism at Work

Dear Soft Hearts, Some people say they love getting critiqued because they can improve once they hear this feedback. I analyze and process where I could’ve made mistakes and try to do differently so I haven’t found critiques in the workplace very helpful. In my training I would have sometimes two superiors in the roomContinue reading “How to Handle Criticism at Work”

Release and Unlearn

Dear Soft Hearts, I wanted to touch base with everyone and see what folx are unlearning after the new year resolution hype. It’s great when we can show up and do things differently, sometimes life saving and life changing. However, sometimes new years resolutions leave us with a Hollywood, Eurocentric idea of what “happy” means.Continue reading “Release and Unlearn”

I Reject Selling Sanity

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When did we turn healing and connection into a sales pitch? How did we turn our sacred field to the hands of corporations? I left a medical corporation that provided mental health care to their patients through an all-in-one health package. It’s the most prominent health care provider on the WestContinue reading “I Reject Selling Sanity”

What Kind of Love do you Love?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I’d like us to explore what kind of love you deeply desire from your inner wisdom or inner loving parent. I’d like you take a moment to close your eyes and envision how the parent within can show up for you. I’d like you to have this expansiveness in your body.Continue reading “What Kind of Love do you Love?”

Intrusive Thoughts are Okay

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When we have thoughts that our body isn’t enough as it is or we hunt down reasons to feel separate us from a friend or partner these thoughts may be intrusive or unwanted. In my training I was taught that these sticky thoughts must be challenged, we must gain evidence againstContinue reading “Intrusive Thoughts are Okay”