Inner Critic – Soft Heart Psychology

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week we’ll discuss how to let that OCD thought or urge arise as the inner critic instead of resisting or battling it. The inner defender may tell the inner critic kind things, but the inner critic-inner defender battle will continue without the quiet, calm, centered part of ourselves. So muchContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What is OCD? In decolonializing care with the folx I serve and debunking a narrow-minded, Eurocentric field of psychology I’ve come to find trauma and grief show up in a number of different ways, including through obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). OCD is neurological and sometimes genetically linked. Sometimes it serves asContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 1”

Love Yourself

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How would you feed yourself if you fed yourself like you feed your lover? Where would you work if you paid yourself like you’d pay a friend? How would you talk to yourself if there was an infant within rather than the adult you? You’ll notice several of our blogs areContinue reading “Love Yourself”

How to Handle Tossing and Turning

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, There are so many articles out there on how we’ve got to disconnect from screens about a half an hour before bed to get good rest and I’ll be honest, I haven’t been doing this. This article is not to shame us into better sleep hygiene. We’ve got gazillions of helpfulContinue reading “How to Handle Tossing and Turning”

Healing From Perfectionism

Dear soft hearted loves, Does perfectionism continue to block you from being you? Does perfectionism exhaust you? Or perhaps you feel you are so far from perfect that perfectionism can’t be an issue for you. The inner critic who lives in perfectionism may attack your performance, work, eating, or other things you do or servicesContinue reading “Healing From Perfectionism”

How to Navigate Inner Parts and Gender

Dear soft hearted loves, Do you remember when we learned about the seven different types of inner critics from expert, Maryam Fallahi? You can review the different types in Maryam Fallahi’s article seen here if you’d like: https://softheartpsychology.com/?p=161 I want to share about the phenomenon of the inner critics attacking our identities, specifically gender identity.Continue reading “How to Navigate Inner Parts and Gender”

How to Love on Your Inner Defender

Dear Soft Hearted People, Maryam Fallahi is our international expert and life coach working on things such as life planning, behavior change, habit formation, self sabotaging behavior, etc. She’s back as a guest blogger with a very skillful article on our inner defender. She utilizes a lot of this Internal Family Systems (IFS) stuff youContinue reading “How to Love on Your Inner Defender”

Noting the Inner Critic

Dear soft hearted people, I find myself sharing about the types of inner critics (often using the book Freedom From Your Inner Critic*) to share with patients about their inner loving parents and inner critics. I sought Maryam Fallahi’s expertise and knowledge to explain more for us in this post. Maryam Fallahi is an amazingContinue reading “Noting the Inner Critic”