Black History Isn’t a Footnote

Dear Soft Hearts, I want to note and celebrate Black History Month with full honoring and acknowledgment. When I lived in Baltimore I learned so much. It made me wonder if we would be less racists if we all grew up in a place where we honored and knew Black history not as a footnoteContinue reading “Black History Isn’t a Footnote”

How to Talk About Racism with White People

Dear Soft Hearts, So just a reminder I’m Iranian American and White. I grew up in a very White neighborhood and skin heads, police, neighbors, etc. were damaging to my Iranian father. I had a different experience than my father and Brown and Black people I know, because I walked around in this world withContinue reading “How to Talk About Racism with White People”

I Reject Selling Sanity

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When did we turn healing and connection into a sales pitch? How did we turn our sacred field to the hands of corporations? I left a medical corporation that provided mental health care to their patients through an all-in-one health package. It’s the most prominent health care provider on the WestContinue reading “I Reject Selling Sanity”

Intrusive Thoughts are Okay

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, When we have thoughts that our body isn’t enough as it is or we hunt down reasons to feel separate us from a friend or partner these thoughts may be intrusive or unwanted. In my training I was taught that these sticky thoughts must be challenged, we must gain evidence againstContinue reading “Intrusive Thoughts are Okay”

How to Address Stress

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As things feel more tense for people these days I thought we’d discuss a few ways to address initial signs of stress. Don’t get me wrong. I think stress is great data. I believe when we feel distress it is parts of us giving us information. It is like parts ofContinue reading “How to Address Stress”

Why Should I Pay for Therapy?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, People often tell people they should go to therapy so that they can just talk with someone. They often argue that going to therapy is the same price as that massage or retail therapy they might pay for otherwise. Therapy is not a massage. Massage is healing too, but therapy isContinue reading “Why Should I Pay for Therapy?”

Body Kindness During Pandemic

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week we’ll discuss how to let that OCD thought or urge arise as the inner critic instead of resisting or battling it. The inner defender may tell the inner critic kind things, but the inner critic-inner defender battle will continue without the quiet, calm, centered part of ourselves. So muchContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 2”