Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What do you do when your reaction feels huge in comparison to what just happened? It is totally understandable if your reaction to seeing, hearing, remembering, or smelling something feels like it doesn’t fit the situation. So many practices in psychology tell folks to think rationally, logically and actually invalidate themselves.Continue reading “How to Attune to the Body When Triggered”
Category Archives: Attunement
Love Yourself
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How would you feed yourself if you fed yourself like you feed your lover? Where would you work if you paid yourself like you’d pay a friend? How would you talk to yourself if there was an infant within rather than the adult you? You’ll notice several of our blogs areContinue reading “Love Yourself”
How to be More Comfortable With Pleasure for Yourself
Dear soft hearted loved ones, I talk with so many people recovering from repressed and oppressed sexuality, especially regarding their own pleasure. Several people have been shamed not to touch themselves. Other groups of people have made children feel dirty or ashamed for safe and healthy masturbation. It is also perfectly okay for people notContinue reading “How to be More Comfortable With Pleasure for Yourself”
Healing From Perfectionism
Dear soft hearted loves, Does perfectionism continue to block you from being you? Does perfectionism exhaust you? Or perhaps you feel you are so far from perfect that perfectionism can’t be an issue for you. The inner critic who lives in perfectionism may attack your performance, work, eating, or other things you do or servicesContinue reading “Healing From Perfectionism”
How to Hold Onto Moments of Joy
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Life can be so weird and hard sometimes that a moment of joy can be something we really want to revel in. I have two suggestions on how to let the joy sink in deeply. Practicing authentic gratitude and creating a reel of other’s appreciation can be just what we need.Continue reading “How to Hold Onto Moments of Joy”
How to Transform from Toxic Positivity to Presence
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I’m a reformed toxic positivity user or a transforming ex-Pollyanna. My dear friend once brought it to my attention that it was invalidating when I would highlight the positive when she was sharing what was going on for her. After years of trying to see the bright side I had toContinue reading “How to Transform from Toxic Positivity to Presence”
How to Validate Your Experiences
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, My dear sweet one, do you find yourself loving on others only to forget to validate yourself? Do you find yourself Pollyanna-ing and being super positive only to bypass your own feelings? Stuffing our feelings or engaging in toxic positivity may have once done the job. If these ways no longerContinue reading “How to Validate Your Experiences”
Accept, Empower and a Full Moon
Dear soft hearted loves, How can we accept an issue or suffering in our lives? Isn’t this just giving up? Acceptance of an area of suffering can then empower us to not pass that wound down to future generations or our own internal families. If you’re like “what’s she talking about with this internal familyContinue reading “Accept, Empower and a Full Moon”
I Feel Fine!
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I have a friend who brought to my attention that people often walk by stating “how are you” and keep walking before hearing an answer. It may feel like a socially appropriate or common question; however, we rarely wait around to hear the answer. Is there room to reply with anythingContinue reading “I Feel Fine!”
Too Sensitive?
Dear soft hearted loved ones, You may have been called too sensitive or someone may have made fun of your sensitivity. You may have old stories around being “too sensitive” or wishing things didn’t impact you the way they do. If you’re deeply impacted by things or people, it’s okay. It can also be helpfulContinue reading “Too Sensitive?”
