How to Attune to the Body When Triggered

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What do you do when your reaction feels huge in comparison to what just happened? It is totally understandable if your reaction to seeing, hearing, remembering, or smelling something feels like it doesn’t fit the situation. So many practices in psychology tell folks to think rationally, logically and actually invalidate themselves.Continue reading “How to Attune to the Body When Triggered”

How to be More Comfortable With Pleasure for Yourself

Dear soft hearted loved ones, I talk with so many people recovering from repressed and oppressed sexuality, especially regarding their own pleasure. Several people have been shamed not to touch themselves. Other groups of people have made children feel dirty or ashamed for safe and healthy masturbation. It is also perfectly okay for people notContinue reading “How to be More Comfortable With Pleasure for Yourself”

Healing From Perfectionism

Dear soft hearted loves, Does perfectionism continue to block you from being you? Does perfectionism exhaust you? Or perhaps you feel you are so far from perfect that perfectionism can’t be an issue for you. The inner critic who lives in perfectionism may attack your performance, work, eating, or other things you do or servicesContinue reading “Healing From Perfectionism”

How to Transform from Toxic Positivity to Presence

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I’m a reformed toxic positivity user or a transforming ex-Pollyanna. My dear friend once brought it to my attention that it was invalidating when I would highlight the positive when she was sharing what was going on for her. After years of trying to see the bright side I had toContinue reading “How to Transform from Toxic Positivity to Presence”

How to Validate Your Experiences

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, My dear sweet one, do you find yourself loving on others only to forget to validate yourself? Do you find yourself Pollyanna-ing and being super positive only to bypass your own feelings? Stuffing our feelings or engaging in toxic positivity may have once done the job. If these ways no longerContinue reading “How to Validate Your Experiences”

Accept, Empower and a Full Moon

Dear soft hearted loves, How can we accept an issue or suffering in our lives? Isn’t this just giving up? Acceptance of an area of suffering can then empower us to not pass that wound down to future generations or our own internal families. If you’re like “what’s she talking about with this internal familyContinue reading “Accept, Empower and a Full Moon”