Dear Soft Hearts, I wanted to touch base with everyone and see what folx are unlearning after the new year resolution hype. It’s great when we can show up and do things differently, sometimes life saving and life changing. However, sometimes new years resolutions leave us with a Hollywood, Eurocentric idea of what “happy” means.Continue reading “Release and Unlearn”
Category Archives: Attunement
The Power of Animals
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As we welcome this new year and new moon with hopeful embrace we also ride the waxes and wanes of the world during these times. I wanted to take a different approach regarding the new year. Rather than talk about how much we want to change about ourselves I want usContinue reading “The Power of Animals”
How to Address Stress
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, As things feel more tense for people these days I thought we’d discuss a few ways to address initial signs of stress. Don’t get me wrong. I think stress is great data. I believe when we feel distress it is parts of us giving us information. It is like parts ofContinue reading “How to Address Stress”
Reactivity!
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I use to walk in the world wondering why the little things bothered me. I wondered why someone wishing me a happy holiday for a holiday I won’t be celebrating made me feel different or why a wondering eye hurt more than it hurt my friends. I wondered how I canContinue reading “Reactivity!”
Grounding for Dissociation
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Everyone has some form of dissociation. People may range from zoning out or daydreaming to experiencing dissociative identity disorder. Folks may wonder why they’ve been feeling more absent minded or forgetful and it could be a number of reasons. I love to make sure their physical health is okay and beforeContinue reading “Grounding for Dissociation”
Feel Those Feels
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Maybe you’ve been having some feelings. I want to say it’s okay if you have sadness in your heart, some uneasiness in your mind, or feelings of loneliness. It’s all okay no matter what. In fact noticing the feelings at all is change. Let’s talk a little bit about feeling feelingsContinue reading “Feel Those Feels”
Four Tools for the Feels
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Some folx ask about how to feel their feelings. I get it. It’s hard to feel feelings. I will say in my experience as a clinical psychologist I know you have everything you need right now to feel your feelings. There actually are no tools one needs, but because we areContinue reading “Four Tools for the Feels”
Body Kindness During Pandemic
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”
How to Attune to the Body When Triggered
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What do you do when your reaction feels huge in comparison to what just happened? It is totally understandable if your reaction to seeing, hearing, remembering, or smelling something feels like it doesn’t fit the situation. So many practices in psychology tell folks to think rationally, logically and actually invalidate themselves.Continue reading “How to Attune to the Body When Triggered”
Love Yourself
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How would you feed yourself if you fed yourself like you feed your lover? Where would you work if you paid yourself like you’d pay a friend? How would you talk to yourself if there was an infant within rather than the adult you? You’ll notice several of our blogs areContinue reading “Love Yourself”
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