Letting go?

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I’m reflecting on times when I let go and it’s honestly hard to decipher between gripping tightly and a part of me saying “eff it” or “I give up, sure I’ll try it” from “I’m genuinely letting go.”  I guess when I’ve let go there’s often other parts of me not on board with the letting go process.  I’ve let go when I’m scared to leave a job that’s killing my soul.  I’ve let go of a relationship when it wasn’t healthy or loving for either of us (and whew did they want me to let go by that point or what!).  I’ve even let go of things like alcohol as my firefighter protector parts found more helpful ways to help me extinguish fires within (which was NOT an okay tool from my Muslim side of the family).  It’s harder for me to think of an easy breezy, hands in the wind, big skirt flowing in the wind, you know, facing the sun type of letting go.  It’s hard for me to recall a time when I willingly and without some suffering said, “yeah I can let myself see where this goes.”  

I was a “I have to work hard at this or else there’s failure in giving up” type of person.  I’m still a “do everything I can” type of gal.  But I also deeply admire friends and loved ones who genuinely and logically let go.  For example, I have a couple of people in my life who handled the peak of COVID so well.  They really were as careful as they could be given their lives and people around them and then they let the rest be as it was.  It blew my mind!  I literally felt like doing a pilot study in my mind on their “letting go” vibes.  What?!  I’m not sure that suffering and letting go always have to be attached.  I feel like there are people out there who genuinely and logically look at the picture as a picture, without attaching too much crap to it.  Given my super thinky, feely composition you can see why I adore these logical loved ones.  These logical friends of mine feel like learning a new language to me.  New and fun and wow so different from this English stuff that often doesn’t make sense.  

Then it dawned on me, I do let go, but in my own kind of language.  I let go a thousand tiny times.  It’s not that I have to punish or “other” myself for not speaking the same language as my letting go loved ones.  It’s just that I let go piece by piece as things are revealed to me and as I grow a stronger sense of awareness to what I’m feeling and need.  For example, I drank a lot during a particular time in my adolescence.  On the outside I went from dorky to party Hannah.  On the inside, I was a fire waiting to combust.  And it felt like I did.  I ozzed my insides out like when Men In Black shoots alien guts everywhere.  Then I stopped drinking and spent some years trying to figure out who I was and how I wanted to let the pieces of things come into a beautiful mosaic.  

Then, once I thought my life was all together and I was in graduate school and everyone else was doing it, I tried drinking again.  It was weird and not as obvious because it wasn’t alien guts everywhere this time, but my despair was all out and about like it hadn’t been since I was a teen.  This time I felt more like when Edgar in Men In Black puts on a man suit.  I felt like I was inauthentic and putting on a suit of a person over my wounded heart, over something I knew didn’t really work for me.  It didn’t feel right and I let go of alcohol and leaned into a different life again.  There’s been a thousand letting goes since and I love everyone of them. And sure it’s easier to love letting go in retrospect, but I really do honor each time I’ve let go tiny bit by tiny bit.  Each little letting go since adolescence has led me to more and more authenticity with a skin of my own.  

I wish that for my teen self.  I give myself and especially my teen self a skin of my own now, within, everyday.  There are ways I feel a little Edgary when I people please or eat for feelings, but in general I live a life more and more in my own skin suit.  There are some days when I have moments of inauthenticity, but noticing it helps a lot.  I recently got to share a bit about this with a client in a way that made sense clinically.  I’m not a blank slate, but I’m not a take up your therapy time and space therapist either.  It felt good to be like “here’s my skin.”  Or more so, “here’s a part of my story, relevant to what you’re asking for, and yeah here’s me.” 

I’m curious about you and wonder when was a time you let go? When was a time you let go like all the way like my cool, logical friends or in little tiny chunks for several years like me?  Also, if you’d like to work together please let me know!  Seriously, I want to know!  So reach out here


Try Imperfection: The Confidence Hack

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Dear soft hearts, I want to tell you about a time when I walked through perfection to get to doing it imperfectly and finding my ray of sun in my work. My balm to burn out. My spark. The way I could contribute in a more sustainable manner and match what my clients needed from me.

I spent most of my training years working with marginalized populations and learning a new language and doing therapy in that new language.  I saw many of my peers learning manualized treatments and specialty stuff, and I wasn’t sure I had the mental organization to stick with it or the follow through to finish a specialized training.  

I went from listening to an interpreter in PhD level courses to being fluent in American Sign Language (ASL) and giving whole courses in ASL.  I even ended up teaching a college course in ASL.  I focused my training throughout on folks with spinal cord injuries, acute stress from car accidents, cancer, amputations and other physical rehab/health psychology stuff.  I focused more training on working with people with very few resources, including gender diverse adolescents and adults.  I still didn’t learn a manualized treatment.  I even told myself it sounded boring and that my unconditional positive regard and compassion were enough.  

I’d go bedside, hear someone’s story, share in that space with them, and give them information about how what they said sounded like trauma.  I’d even tell them a few types of ways trauma can show up (like acute stress v. PTSD).  It was amazing to see how the being with them in that moment and telling them what I saw was understandable given all they’d been through felt relieving.  It was amazing to see how much that meant over mindfulness or other things.  I’d sometimes talk to their loved ones or medical team to help relay communication.  It reminded me of being the big sister, pivoting from sharing that tidbit of information in that way to this info in this way.  It was all very natural for me and I could see how much progress was being made.  The progress of moving someone from feeling alone and misunderstood to feeling connected is still to this day my favorite work.  

I saw how folks suffered these last few years and how they needed and asked for more than moving from misunderstood to connected.  A friend told me that there are scholarships available for folks to learn eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR) therapy.  I have loved ones who raved about the impacts of EMDR, but I thought it sounded like one of my favorite movies, Men in Black.  I thought they’d wave the little thingy and make your memories disappear.  I was cute.  There’s no Men in Black magical movey thingy to make memories disappear.  We simply move stuff back and forth from the limbic system to the frontal lobe to reprocess memories leaving folks to feel unstuck.  People feel unstuck AND more connected to themselves and others in a beautiful way.  

I still wasn’t sure that I could do it.  Guess what though.  I won a 50% scholarship!  I’m still forever grateful for those folks at ICM.  I provided several sessions to clients through a scholarship since and I hope I can one day return to ICM to give back.  The training was an LGBTQ EMDR training for 42 hours.  We did chunks of hours of EMDR on each other after we’d learn new approaches. 

I was terrified!  I was scared my colleagues in our practice group would think I sucked or was dumb or that I’d mess up their trauma recovery somehow.  I was scared for my now EMDR consultant to observe me doing it.  Was I doing it wrong?  Was I messing everything up?  Hey, I’m on 50% scholarship, should I be doing better and taking up no space?  Well I did it anyway.  I spoke with two close loved ones about my fears, I took walking breaks, I breathed, and I sometimes voiced my fears with my colleagues or even authority figures (the very kind EMDR consultants and trainers).  I did it wobbly like how I do when I am learning to ride a bike.  

I was DAZZLED and filled with profound hope to see traumas moving quickly.  I moved through a traumatic experience I couldn’t move through in talk therapy alone.  I integrated parts work and EMDR with a colleague and moved through what they couldn’t move through in their EMDR alone for two years.  I saw single incident trauma, complex trauma and multiple incident traumas move within hours of implementing our trainings on each other.  It was one of the most life changing experiences for me. 

I’ve been wanting a therapy approach in my toolbox like EMDR and told myself I couldn’t do it or there was other stuff to learn for more than a decade.  I love how these fears of not doing things perfectly were acknowledged, and even loved on, but this part of me didn’t drive the bus.  My best self drove the bus instead.  

I became EMDR trained shortly after these EMDR training!  THEN I spent several months going from EMDR trained to get ready to be EMDR certified.  I am so grateful for how EMDR has helped me serve folks.  I truly could have talked myself out of this joyous healing.  I could’ve even stunted my healing in the process if I didn’t make room for, but not let my fear drive the bus.  It wasn’t easy, but it’s been so fruitful.  

And dear soft hearts, guess what?!  I’m preparing my next level EMDR Certified application this week!  When is a time when you did something imperfectly and it led you to your confidence?

Want to come work with me? I’d love the honor to work with you. Reach out and see if we’re a fit to get you walking through imperfection toward your best life. Thanks so much for joining and let’s meet again here next week ❤


Loving You

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Soft hearts, I can’t wait to share with you more about loving you. I recently co-hosted a workshop to support therapists surviving trauma. We discussed ways they can love on themselves, even through the difficult and even traumatizing times.

First, we discussed Polyvagal Theory. I taught folks how we can slow the breath down in order to get the most of our nervous system. Specifically, using what we know from polyvagal theory I recommend breathing in 40% and breathing out 60%. What that looks like is an out breath that’s a little longer than our in breath so for example if you breath in for 4 seconds or so, you’d want to breath out for about six seconds. I also show people how I’m breathing from my belly, not my heart space. We slow the heart rate down and get our parasympathetic nervous system on board to bring us down into this moment.

I also taught people about containment. We utilized imagery I learned from Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy training. I had workshop participants and healers get cozy and comfy. You can actually try this as you join me here in the blog sphere. Get cozy and comfy for a few moments here. You can take a few deep, slow breaths from the bottom of your belly, letting your exhales linger a little longer than your inhales. Imagine a container that feels pleasant. This is a holding space for you to contain anything that’s still there after a therapy session or anything you don’t have time for in this moment. This is not to stuff or push anything away, but rather to acknowledge what’s coming up, note it, and let what’s coming up be held in safe containment for you to come back to at another time. I call mine Rainbow and it’s an actual prayer box that holds everything safely for me. Yours can be something actual or fantastical.

Now that you’ve identified a safe container please imagine the specifics of your container. Imagine the qualities of your container. Picture the colors, temperature, textures, and anything you see, hear, smell, feel and taste with your safe container. Take a moment to breath in as you open your container. Imagine placing anything you have left that you’d like to come back to in your safe container. Take another deep breath and imagine closing your container. Again, your container can be actual or something in your imagination and you can name it and come back to it anytime it may be helpful for you. Some folks tell me they come back to their container for so much more than trauma recovery and people can use it to help with sleep, work stress, and a number of other issues.

Once you have some breathing and containment on board you can notice what you’re feeling and where. I had our lovely workshop participants get in touch with how they’re feeling with a general sense of compassion, talking to themselves like they’d talk to their inner child. Now this can be tough if someone feels triggered by images of themself when they were little. For example, if they were born in a body that doesn’t align with their gender, I’d recommend that they are expansive and flexible with however they picture their inner child. This can be done by looking at a picture of little you or sensing how you feel as you scan your body. Is there tightness in your forehead, racing heart, or tension in your hips? You can see what’s coming up in your body with the gentleness and ease we’d grant to a child, or our inner child.

When you scan and see what’s there, folks expressed great compassion for their feelings and inner child. Folks can again go to container or deep breathing for whatever is there or for any residual feelings or experiences that they’d like to come back to with a trained healer.

Hey, I’m so proud of you for considering more ways to love on yourself. I know it’s so cheesy, but when we are gentle with ourselves I do believe it emanates out there to others and the world. I feel it too sometimes. I’ll walk by someone who is just glowing and I simply feel their kindness, their love. Have you ever noticed someone’s inner love shining outward? You don’t have to do this healing alone and this blog certainly doesn’t replace therapy. Reach out to find your healing support today.



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Soft hearts, our very last episode on Breaking The Couch is as it stands complete. We produced two seasons, more than 40 episodes. While my farewell with the podcast is a “forever goodbye” as Dr. Dowtin mentions in the episode, Dr. Dowtin may or may not go back to Breaking The Couch in the future.

There are so many types of goodbyes. Dr. Dowtin and I processed this goodbye with our beloved listeners from the beginning of season two. We intentionally let people know that while I loved contributing trauma recovery tidbits and support, I would no longer be joining as it stands once season two completed. This closing was processed and discussed, mainly transparently with you, our audience.

Thank you so much for joining if you did read our captions or join as listeners. You are what made our podcast special and we wanted to send a main theme that you’re not alone. Tune in for our last episode as the podcast stands today below and let Breaking The Couch know if you’d love to support them in coming back in the future.

So often we don’t get a chance to say farewell in an intentional way. Let us walk you through our time together with gentleness. Let’s be intentional and walk hand in hand as we close this chapter, truly leaving a collection of information out there and lots of doors to open in our next chapters. Thank you again for this opportunity.

Here are some of the amazing guests we want to thank for joining and contributing in such beautiful, impactful ways:

  1. Dr. Jesús Barreto Abrams – Okay so here we talked a lot about the worlds of therapists and interpreters and learned amazing recommendations on how to release the stress and vicarious trauma of the day.
  2. Dr. Margaret Li – We got an introduction to sex therapy for survivors of trauma and learned how you too can talk about sex with your therapist.
  3. Ms. Devaney Knight – We learned amazing relationship strategies and ways to show up for yourself and in love.
  4. Dr. Angelina Nortey – Dr. Nortey shared with us about institutional and racial traumas and share about connection as a Black millennial.
  5. Mr. Darius Fennell – We learned about anxiety and all things mental health recovery from Mr. Fennell in this fascinating episode.
  6. Marianela Rodousakis – Ms. Rodousakis gave us all the information about therapeutic nursery programs and healing generational trauma in the classroom (and outside of the classroom too!).
  7. Ms. Jila Behnad – This episode and Ms. Behnad’s experience and dedication to immigration trauma was so helpful and eye opening.

I hope you’ll see so much of what you need in the above episodes either for yourself or clients you serve.

Some special quotes that honored our work include:

Dr. Chona Green from Business on a Budget and The Green Garden said “I am so sad to say goodbye to Breaking the Couch podcast!  As a therapist, I found the stories and info so helpful!  From talking about trauma to relationships to how to show up in the room, there guys talked about everything!  My favorite episode was the one about what to say when your Auntie calls you fat over the holidays.  So relatable!!  Sad but happens like every time for some reason!  This was definitely a great podcast to listen to just for growth and inspiration and validation.”

Check out the above video for more beautiful quotes helping Dr. Dowtin and I say goodbye and close this chapter. We had kind quotes that thanked us for helping people learn what NOT to say to trauma survivors, people thanking us for going behind the scenes with therapy to demystify therapy and trauma recovery, and even a quote from a listener encouraging their friends to listen in too!

To learn more about goodbyes in therapy check out this article on Closing Out Your Therapy. So goodbye for now and wishing you the best on your trauma recovery journey. Please feel free to reach out to me should you want to work together in the future.

Therapy Freebies!

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Dear Soft Hearts, I can’t wait to share these freebies with you so you can get all the free stuff I share with my therapy clients. While these can’t replace the healing of a therapeutic alliance, I’m still hoping it can give you some extra support for free. In general, you can always go here for free stuff from my website.

Here’s a bunch of my free meditations:

For your inner child with all the feels.

Workplace destress.

For your inner baby.

Inner child greeting for you this morning.

Here’s our free discussions with loads of trauma recovery tips:

Breaking The Couch Podcast.

These meditations and podcast episodes may give you a sense of ease and help you self soothe, but they may also give you a bunch of info on how therapy and your inner child is healing.

Whatever resources you decide to check out please know that you’re enough and you listening to your inner child is enough. Thanks for checking out this week’s therapy freebies and looking forward to meeting with you here next Wednesday!

How Long Does it Take for EMDR to Work?

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Soft Hearts, eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is totally supposed to be a faster model than the old school talk therapy. No longer do we have to be old White dudes chatting about your mother. With that being said, EMDR can still take years for some people. I’ve seen some folks move their trauma to a place of ZERO distress in just a couple of hours, whereas for several folks it takes a number of weeks or months of working at this stuff. One of the best ways I can tell someone about the length to expect is to think of what the trauma links to and what they’re doing in between sessions.

I get that we want stuff to get better fast, and sometimes there’s more stuff linked to it or $hit comes up in between sessions that makes recovery tougher and bumper than we’d hoped for.


So when I say consider what your trauma links to I mean that if you’re working with me at an EMDR Intensive Retreat on a car accident, but it really links back to the car accident AND being neglected as a child then there’s more to this than a single experience. Single incident trauma may be less complicated for some than if there were several incidents across a lifetime. The hard part is that most people don’t know what their anxiety, hopelessness or sense of unfairness links back to until we get in there and I help them through when the first time they felt that sense of hopelessness or unfairness. Therefore, we really can’t tell if it will take a couple of hours or a couple of years to access and reduce your anxiety, depression, grief or trauma through EMDR.

In Between Sessions

If you’re being retraumatized in between sessions by an abusive boss or some triggering experience then it might not be as conducive to your mental health recovery as if you felt securely and stably supported. There are things that you’ll learn with your EMDR therapist that can help you. We work on containment, relaxation, and self soothing that helps people during and in between sessions. If you can practice your resources by doing inner work like journaling, slow deep breaths, or contacting a supportive friend then when stuff comes up and you feel distressed you’ll be able to lean into what you’ve been practicing. Practicing your resources on a daily basis, even for a couple of minutes, makes a world of difference for my clients.

There are a number of factors that can give you an idea of how long it will take. Whether you’re about to have a baby or just really in need of distress around your panic I hope however long it takes that the journey to getting to where you want is fruitful too. I hope your inner child and you as a whole can feel as proud of you as I do for even trying to address this stuff.

How to Start Your Healing Practice

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Whether you’re thinking of coaching, psychological services like therapy, or some other type of healing business I have a great suggestion for you. I’ve been building my practice since before we knew of COVID-19 and now I’ve revamped my business a few times. I’ve had healer friends ask what tips I have in starting a business over the the last several years of building a foundation for my therapy business.

The number one thing I’d recommend is to value your work from the beginning by joining Business on a Budget. We learn several lessons from Dr. Chona Green’s teachings to help you figure out how to start your business without spending a bunch of money! I learned about setting a price that fits for me in working with Dr. Chona on my business. If I could suggest one thing it would be to get curious about your stories with money. I’d recommend you gently and deeply explore what you think about yourself, to value your time, your emotional labor and your energy. I’d love to win a bunch of money and provide free therapy for the world as I think health care. In the meantime, I suggest you find out what you need to live. You can use the calculation you’ve come up with for what you need to live along with your money stories to help you figure out your rates.

Since I started with Dr. Chona I went from the dry winter months as a therapist to being able to take a swim break just now. I’m literally drying off! I haven’t swam laps like that since high school. It felt amazing to jump into the pool and let the water float past my goggles. I get it, swimming may not be your thing. But you know what I mean. Being able to do what we love every once in a while shows up in our work. I’ll share concrete numbers with you so you can see what working with Dr. Chona means for my business. In one year of working with Dr. Chona I’ve increased my gross income by 33% in comparison to this time last year. I still have some work to do as I pivot to doing more EMDR intensives, but all in all I’m grateful I can go from increasing my debt every month while to having a business that pays for my day to day essentials. I can’t imagine what would happen if this growth continues.

If you’re one of my friends who would love to level up your business or who simply wants to branch out into a new area of your therapy business then please check out Dr. Chona’s Business on a Budget today! She has an amazing cohort of people joining her program and groups so consider splashing into your joy!

Is EMDR Therapy Covered by Insurance?

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My dear Soft Hearts, eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is sometimes covered by insurance. It really depends. If you have an insurance provider you can contact them and ask for providers who address trauma or ask what, if anything, they’ll reimburse for therapy that is outside of their network. It’s scary and hard. People contact me all of the time assuming I’m a provider who takes insurance because one insurance company says I am even though I’m not. That means there’s therapists on these lists that insurance shouldn’t have put on the list.

There may also be therapists who wanted to be on an insurance provider list, but are now full. Therefore, if you have insurance and contact your insurance provider to get a list of therapists who treat trauma, you’ll have to go through the list to see if you can find someone. I’d also consider being flexible and not just sticking to EMDR. For example, you may find a provider who will help you with your inner child, does TF-CBT or some other trauma recovery approach that might fit your needs. I’d also figure out how much you’ll pay for your insurance co-pay or how much you’ll pay out of your account (such as how much you’ll pay out-of-pocket).

Sometimes EMDR is also somewhere for folks who are underinsured or not insured. For example, when I was training I put out a couple of EMDR slots on Open Path Collective. Places like Open Path Collective are trying to fill the enormous and concerning gap within the United States so folks who are underinsured or not insured can access therapy. People can find LGBTQ providers, Therapists of Color, and healers who do EMDR!

You can also find out if providers at local, nearby clinics in your state offer EMDR and see if those clinics have a sliding scale. For example, you may be able to find a supervisor at a training clinic who has trainees observe her do EMDR. Again, there’s a lot of work people do to locate someone who is a fit for their financial and accessibility needs, not to mention finding someone who fits their schedule. I’d recommend taking it in little chunks and giving yourself breaks with gentleness. For example, I’d suggest contacting five therapists a day for a few weeks or even getting a loved one to help you sift through a few handfuls of therapist’s ads to see if you can find anyone that way.

So yes you can find EMDR therapy via insurance, but boy does it point out the inequity within our mental health system in the United States. I’m unsure how this goes for folks in other regions and nations. If there are ways you know of that people can access EMDR therapy via insurance or on a sliding scale without insurance please post it here or let me know.

EMDR Intensive Therapy Retreat

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Soft hearts, I love helping people get ready for a beautiful time just for them and their inner child. I love surprising people with the fact that I do large chunks of trauma recovery therapy all at once and all online! They’re surprised that we can do all this in a way where they feel connection with me and themselves all online.

They may have been in talk therapy for years only to feel like something is still stuck. People are sometimes surprised that we can move things from feeling stuck in the limbic system to being unstuck in the neocortex and back and forth in order for it to get reprocessed.

I think the magic behind eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR), and especially EMDR Intensive Therapy Retreat with me is really getting people ready beforehand. In order for it to feel like a retreat I remind people to get rest, stay hydrated and to complete a workbook I tailor to them concerning the issues they identify. For example, if someone wants to work on a resentment, trauma, anxiety, or stuck grief I focus their workbook on assessing their beliefs in the world, how it was growing up, what they’ve been through, and what they can do before, during and after our time together to decompress, chill and feel okay enough in their own skin.

Then, as we prepare for reprocessing I teach them a few imagery strategies and some breath work tips. I support them to notice when they zone out or dissociate. We take breaks in reprocessing to stretch, go to the bathroom and meditate. It’s really funny we call it “intensive” because it’s really just a chunk of sessions dedicated to a person’s dreams and hopes where they get to focus on taking care of themself and their inner child. It’s a place where I get to learn that patients feel their views and lives feel changed for the better.

When people tell me they feel unstuck about an issue I’m really grateful I get to do this work. One day I hope to get a retreat spot and do this in person. For now, you can go here to get started with virtual time just for you, especially in the form of an EMDR Intensive Therapy Retreat.

#1 Recommendation

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Soft hearts, this is my only post this month about something other than EMDR. I have to share with you about my journey with coping. There are gazillions of ways I’ve coped and ways I’ve shared with others about coping, but the vagus nerve, specifically cold on the vagus nerve has been amazing.

When I first heard about using cold compresses or taking a cold shower from my therapist I thought, “no problem” with the cold compress to my heart space. I thought, “this is amazing because I naturally do that with my hand anyway.” My hands tend to be cold most of the time so I put them on my heart space to self soothe. I just did this and didn’t even know it was a thing! Well when my therapist said I could put an ice pack on my heart space to help my parasympathetic nervous system. I knew that the parasympathetic nervous system is crucial to calming from states of nervousness. I knew that this helps us come down when we’re in survival mode. I also knew that this meant I could slow my heart rate and relax! She also told me that putting these ice packs on my chest or upper back would even tone my vagus nerve over time!

Like I said, I was sold! You saw me walking around with an ice pack on my chest. It worked for me. I also was happy to go the cold compress way instead of cold shower way! Cold showers make me think of older family members from Iran who might wonder what the heck I was doing with access to clean, warm water icing myself. It also made me think of diving into the water for water polo practice in high school around 5 or 6 am. It was so cold! I just figured the cold compress was working and it was plenty cold enough for me!

Then Mr. Darius Fennell, my favorite Mental Health Recovery Advocate, shared that cold showers were part of HIS toolkit. I was listening to this man in awe of how he puts in so much for his mental wellness thinking, “wait, I can try it too.” I can level up my cold compresses for cold showers and see how it goes. I couldn’t wait to share how these cold showers with slow breaths are going great. You can learn more about how Mr. Fennell does it in a way that gets him ready for anxious or panic moments and how it actually does tone the vagus nerve. Mr. Fennell explains his way of a mind-body approach to this vagus nerve healing tool!

I wish you could tell how excited I am when I say that it REALLY WORKS for me! This is changing my life over here and I couldn’t wait to tell you. I do recommend you talk with your doctor to make sure it’s right for you (like ask about blood pressure, lung issues, and more).

I also think you’ll be really grateful you watched the whole video so you get info on Mr. Fennell’s book and more information on his concept of the toolkit. As someone in the filed I’ve referred to a toolkit a bunch, but the way he talks about collecting data, doing the work in and between sessions, and changing things up as you go is revolutionary. I can’t wait to order his Leaving Jupiter book for more. I couldn’t wait until February to share how much the vagus nerve stuff is helping, but for now we can go back to more EMDR articles for the month. For now, here’s the full episode just for you.

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