Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part One

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Okay so this blog post could go anywhere this week. The complexities of bullying?! Where do we begin? There’s so much we could discuss concerning bullying. For this I’m talking about the slights that injured you and this could be picking on someone’s shoes, parent, size, etc. For today I’d likeContinue reading “Wounds from Various Types of Bullying: Part One”

Grounding for Dissociation

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Everyone has some form of dissociation. People may range from zoning out or daydreaming to experiencing dissociative identity disorder. Folks may wonder why they’ve been feeling more absent minded or forgetful and it could be a number of reasons. I love to make sure their physical health is okay and beforeContinue reading “Grounding for Dissociation”

Where Does Forgiveness Start?

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Sometimes we want to forgive or release someone or something for a wrongdoing or resentment we’re holding.  Perhaps someone hurt you.  Maybe a system or place or thing didn’t give you a chance.  Perhaps intergenerational stuff has been passed down to you and you want to release from this stuff.  MaybeContinue reading “Where Does Forgiveness Start?”

Four Tools for the Feels

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Some folx ask about how to feel their feelings. I get it. It’s hard to feel feelings. I will say in my experience as a clinical psychologist I know you have everything you need right now to feel your feelings. There actually are no tools one needs, but because we areContinue reading “Four Tools for the Feels”

Body Kindness During Pandemic

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”

The Power of Groups

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I recently received a validating, compassionate email from a previous friend from a time in my life when things were difficult and I felt alone. It reminded me of the power of groups because at that time in my life I went to a group where I learned to release behaviorsContinue reading “The Power of Groups”

4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4

Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This tip is pretty simple, but it has been the most helpful suggestion for people I know. Learning as much as you can is helpful for OCD. It allows the noting thing we talked about in the beginning of this series to be that much easier. Learning more about OCD takesContinue reading “4-Part Series on Tips for OCD: Part 4”