Dear Soft Hearted Loves, This week I’d like us to discuss bullying as it relates to gender related comments. Some people have been called names, ostracized, or isolated because they were perceived as different or not fitting a child’s conceptualization of a binary gender. Some people have been hurt or threatened because of how theyContinue reading “Bullying: Part Three”
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Bullying: Part Two
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Thanks for joining us for more on ways bullying occurs, what that means for people, and how we can improve moving forward. Another type of abuse is isolating or aggressing toward someone using racial messages or propaganda to hurt someone. We know that these types of aggressions range from pronouncing someone’sContinue reading “Bullying: Part Two”
Bullying: Part One
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Okay so this blog post could go anywhere this week. The complexities of bullying?! Where do we begin? There’s so much we could discuss concerning bullying. For this I’m talking about the slights that injured you and this could be picking on someone’s shoes, parent, size, etc. For today I’d likeContinue reading “Bullying: Part One”
Grounding for Dissociation
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Everyone has some form of dissociation. People may range from zoning out or daydreaming to experiencing dissociative identity disorder. Folks may wonder why they’ve been feeling more absent minded or forgetful and it could be a number of reasons. I love to make sure their physical health is okay and beforeContinue reading “Grounding for Dissociation”
Mood Plan
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, What’s your mood plan? What will you do to care for your mood today? Do you do so much for your mental health only to notice the change in seasons and increase in darkness impact your moods? Well you’re not alone. It’s more common than we’re aware of or talk about.Continue reading “Mood Plan”
Feel Those Feels
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Maybe you’ve been having some feelings. I want to say it’s okay if you have sadness in your heart, some uneasiness in your mind, or feelings of loneliness. It’s all okay no matter what. In fact noticing the feelings at all is change. Let’s talk a little bit about feeling feelingsContinue reading “Feel Those Feels”
Where Does Forgiveness Start?
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Sometimes we want to forgive or release someone or something for a wrongdoing or resentment we’re holding. Perhaps someone hurt you. Maybe a system or place or thing didn’t give you a chance. Perhaps intergenerational stuff has been passed down to you and you want to release from this stuff. MaybeContinue reading “Where Does Forgiveness Start?”
Four Tools for the Feels
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, Some folx ask about how to feel their feelings. I get it. It’s hard to feel feelings. I will say in my experience as a clinical psychologist I know you have everything you need right now to feel your feelings. There actually are no tools one needs, but because we areContinue reading “Four Tools for the Feels”
Body Kindness During Pandemic
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, How can we have gentleness with our body changes during this global pandemic? Some of us lost our muscles or gained more flesh. Some of us lost touch with movement that was empowering and felt good to our bodies while others gained a more mindful relationship with food and ditched theContinue reading “Body Kindness During Pandemic”
The Power of Groups
Dear Soft Hearted Loves, I recently received a validating, compassionate email from a previous friend from a time in my life when things were difficult and I felt alone. It reminded me of the power of groups because at that time in my life I went to a group where I learned to release behaviorsContinue reading “The Power of Groups”
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