Therapeutic Journey

I really wanted to share about my experience with meeting my inner family. People might be like “what’s that?!” While the inner family sounds weird to some, it has been healing to so many. People have been accessing different parts of ourselves long before Dr. Richard Schwartz, a family therapist and eating disorder specialist, developedContinue reading “Therapeutic Journey”

Healing Sex Series: Session 4-Explore Messages

In this final session I’d like us to gently explore messages we’ve learned from around sex, sexuality, and desire. Take a moment to get comfy where you are. Feel yourself so supported in your space. Feel yourself even 10% more comfortable, 10% more supported. Take a few breaths from the bottom of your belly, holdContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 4-Explore Messages”

Healing Sex Series: Session 3-Tune In

I’m not the first to talk about chilling out before and during sex. I’m not talking about numbing or dissociating. I’m talking about tuning in to the moment and attuning to your partner(s). Being mindful in a compassionate, gentle manner can open a channel that feels comfortable and safer for folks. Gently seeing what’s thereContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 3-Tune In”

Healing Sex Series: Session 2-Identifying What You Want

Years ago a friend sent me this amazing and inclusive list that folks can go through with partners to spot what they want and what their partner wants and needs. It’s an ongoing conversation (meaning what they want today may not be what they desire next month). It includes a sex positive approach for allContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 2-Identifying What You Want”

Healing Sex Series: Session 1-Professional Supports

I’ve been invited to talk with people about talking about sex in therapy and greatly enjoy sharing with folks about their needs and how to connect, safely. People may come in with pelvic pain and traumas around sex or may have experienced years of a controlling caregiver or relational trauma and wonder how or whyContinue reading “Healing Sex Series: Session 1-Professional Supports”

Favorite Meditations

I thought I’d take a minute to share my favorite meditations this week! I know patients are often open to my meditation recommendations when I suggest starting with guided meditations. When I began taking a moment to tune in, or meditating, I started with guided meditation. Back then my therapist felt it wouldn’t help forContinue reading “Favorite Meditations”

Your In Between Session Guide

I can’t wait until next week to share what I’m going to share today! I literally can’t hold it in until next week! I’m super excited to share with you about things you can do in between sessions because if we only meet with our therapists for like 45 minutes a week then there’s aContinue reading “Your In Between Session Guide”

Doing Stuff Anyway

So I’m always talking about being gentle with ourselves, but I wanted to talk about walking through hard stuff while being gentle. Contrary action can be, in an odd kind of way, one of the gentlest things we can do. So many of my little blogs discuss how we don’t need to “should” or shameContinue reading “Doing Stuff Anyway”

Doing Little Things For You

So I’ve been thinking about something codependency expert, Melody Beattie, discussed. She has some great literature like Codependent No More and explains how if you want to have your hair a certain way and can make that happen then please do. Sometimes I’m working on the inside so much I forget that it’s okay toContinue reading “Doing Little Things For You”