Dr. J

Sexy Secrets: Slow Down to Speed Up

I frequently get the question about sexual desire discrepancy. I’m going to give some super quick and easy to digest tips here. I think overloading folks with a bunch of advice on an often sensitive subject – sexual desire differences, can be way too much to handle. So you’ll get bite sized chunks of tipsContinue reading “Sexy Secrets: Slow Down to Speed Up”

1 More Tip For OCD Flare Ups

When intrusive thoughts increase we may want to argue with this part of us. My field often tells us to challenge thoughts and that is incorrect for most intrusive thoughts, especially of the OCD nature. It’s not that I’m over here agreeing with my OCD messages or letting this part of me drive my innerContinue reading “1 More Tip For OCD Flare Ups”

2 Tips for OCD Flare Ups

A while back I wrote a bunch on obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and the various types of OCD. I’m learning more and more about OCD both for my patients, but also for myself. There are so many types of OCD including pure O, relationship OCD, etc. There’s so much those of us with OCD canContinue reading “2 Tips for OCD Flare Ups”

Loving All Parts

When was a time I genuinely rebelled? I’ve rebelled against not living up to family’s standards as a teenager. I’ve rebelled against the path that fellow postdoctoral colleagues traveled by leaving my post-doctoral position halfway through when I couldn’t handle the lack of sun, break up, grandfather’s death, father’s rapid decline, and a racist workContinue reading “Loving All Parts”

Level Up Your Healing

This week I wanted to remind you about my EMDR intensive offering. I’m offering 20% off for the rest of this month (May 2023). Check out this link to see a video on how condensing and focusing your treatment can help you get where you want to go and to just be your true self.Continue reading “Level Up Your Healing”

Codependence And Your Inner Wealth

For years now I’ve heard parents claim the one thing they want for their child is “to be happy.” Emotional peace and wealth is what I often hear people refer to as their goal for themselves too. There are long stretches of time when all I did was focus on my goals and I feltContinue reading “Codependence And Your Inner Wealth”

Window of Tolerance

Your Window of Tolerance is basically when you’re not too overwhelmed to deal with the intense stuff coming your way. You can see why we really want to understand and maybe even expand your window of tolerance if we’re doing EMDR therapy together. Dr. Dan Siegel first explained that the Window of Tolerance isContinue reading “Window of Tolerance”

Leaning Into Ambivalence

My business allowed me to have a phone upgrade where all I have to do is pay the taxes and activation. They call it “free”, but it’s so not free in so many ways. It scares the crap out of me to have this more upgraded phone. You might be wondering why did I goContinue reading “Leaning Into Ambivalence”

Your Workbook

Some folks are understandably curious about what comes in their customized workbook when they sign up for an EMDR Premium Package to have adjunct EMDR therapy or to take a deep dive into a specific issue. If you decide to sign up for one of these package options not only do you get a bunchContinue reading “Your Workbook”

Savor Your Wins (for little you)

Usually when I cross the finish line people around me think it’s when I’ll stop worrying about the next thing I’m trying to do or finish. The next certification, degree or milestone. They want me to celebrate, but I’m scared and feel small when I win or accomplish. All the striving and persistence “should” beContinue reading “Savor Your Wins (for little you)”